STYLE
Now what pictures flood the mind when someone says style? Is it models, magazines, and advertisements? Style is much more than how you cut your hair and what clothes you wear .Style is actually the way you express yourself, your thoughts ,feelings, interests and values. It is a total combination of who you are expressed outwards. Most people believe that when you change your style, you are just changing your outside appearance but if this is done, you are just putting on a mask anyone can go into a store and buy new and different clothing but that does not improve the person. Only thru knowledge and learning can we improve ourselves. Most of us can’t see the messages we are sending and its far beyond us to keep track of everything and when we do find out from overhearing others talking or a close friend or relative being honest, it’s far from what we believed. Then there is the hidden messages put out by body language. The messages we put out when where scared , angry , embarrassed , and sad .And last but not least the signals we put out when we ‘re being untrue to ourselves and others… These things also affect your style, how you walk, talk, and react to others. You need to be aware of these things if you truly want to improve the whole package. The three things a player broadcast is Confidence, Cool and Control. He is honest playful and interesting, like a moth to the flame people are drawn to him and he surrounds himself with positive people intensifying the light. I honestly believe everyone has this inside them (charisma) the person everyone loves and is drawn to and I would love to take as many people along this path as I can. We all have flaws and mannerism that make us unattractive but once we recognize them we have the power to change.
So now, let us break everything down:
GROOMING is something that forms a person’s first opinion of you (most of the time unconsciously). A well-trimmed man dressed in clean tidy clothes and polished shoes against a man who has dirty hair unwashed clothes and sneakers. The first man appears more important and gives off an image of confidence and power. We look at women the same way, a women who is clean and well dressed is more appealing than one that appears to need her hair washed and clothes that need to be thrown out .Judgments are made by everyone, every second whether it is conscience or not. We are programmed by everything we see and hear to accept a certain way and make decisions whether they are healthy and advantageous or unhealthy and harmful.
CLOTHING: What you wear makes up 60% of peoples first impression of you and carries thru the start of your conversation. There are messages projected thru specific clothing that you must learn in order to make a positive influence. What you wear can emphasize what you are saying, giving it a stronger sense of truth. If you met, a person highly groomed wearing a well-fitted suit and carrying a briefcase and said he was a high-class lawyer would you believe him (probably) What if the man had dirty clothes torn sneakers and no socks .Clothing does not make the man but it is sure a good foundation.
NON-VERBAL: According to many studies, most of our conversations with people are non-verbal. From the moment, you see each other signals are being sent. How you walk, stand, and sit gives off messages to the people around you. Imagine someone came storming into a bar, pushing over chairs and thumping his hand down on a table, then he is asked ,”how he is feeling.” and he grunts ,”fine!” would you believe him. Probably not, but if the same person strolled in with a smile and was shaking every ones hand, then that is a different story. People will make up their mind about you long before you open your mouth. Which scene would show you as a confident happy fun loving person that people are drawn to, someone standing with a beer trying to look cool looking around as if he stole the last cookie or someone laughing and goofy around not caring what others thought and having a ball? Besides your appearance the way you say something is also part of the non-verbal conversation .The tone, pitch and volume of your voice also play a large part. A person with a loud voice can appear insensitive and domineering, they must talk louder than anyone else to be understood and listened to must. Where as a person with a soft voice may appear shy and insecure, not sure, if what they are saying is important. At least these could be the messages the person they are meeting receives.
BRANDS AND REPUTATIONS: It takes a lot of hard work to build a good reputation even a self-brand and a mere second to destroy it. Your brand or label is the code key of how much influence you have in any situation. Let us say I told a room that you were executive that just sealed an international contract for your company that you created people would listen to your every word. Then the next time I said you were a con artist that just embezzled the company’s retirement fund. Your reputation is the foundation of who you are protect it above all else. People will believe anything someone tells them about you at first, and then information gathered thru your conversation will determine whether it will be retained or thrown away.
PASSION AND LIFESTYLES: What our passions are in life, determine the lifestyle we live. Whether your passion is the wildlife full of adventure or securities, calm and concise. Your passions are projected thru your lifestyle. It takes a lot less work to change who you are compared to lying about it because no matter what lies you tell, people will already have enough information to work out who you are no matter what you say. Never underestimate others because eventually the truth will surface .There is an old saying “you can fool some of the people some of the time but you can’t fool all of the people all of the time.” This is a point that cannot be stressed enough. Even the slightest action can give people a clue of who you are; if you open the door for someone, how you react around children, and even how you drink and eat all give other a look into your soul. Now why would you want these at your best possible level?
CONFIDENCE: If you can see the path ahead and the sun is shining, you will shine and everything that is not at your level merely leaves room to grow. To feel the true energy of life, that rush when everything falls in place and nothing is impossible. Happiness comes from a good self-esteem and the closer we get to that perfect perception of ourselves the more we like ourselves creating a spiral that surges upwards. To truly become that shining light for everyone to see. The secret to this is not to settle for what your life is but push forward to it can be, by working every day to improve yourself
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