SECRETS REVEALED
Now, I will reveal to you the secret of the MASTERS. The one main thing that separates the creators from the watchers is ************ CONFIDENCE************** It is the one thing that sets the Masters on a podium staring down on those that think it is impossible. Nothing is impossible; you just have to break things down into smaller jobs and then face each one as a stepping-stone to the next. As you attempt each one, look at the positive aspects of what you did and expand on them. Then before you know it your running down hill jumping over any obstacles that remain, at top speed and crossing the finish line, to the cheers of all those around you.
The best way to build confidence is to surround yourself with positive influences. Friends, family, and the people you associate with all have an affect on how you deal with life’s obstacles and this in turn decides your level of confidence. When you are surrounded by negative people, whose favorite word is “can’t,” then your confident level goes down. Whereas if you are around people that push you to succeed though repeating the task, and helping you by pointing out your positive achievements with each attempt .Then with each attempt your confidence rises and success is inevitable. This positive aspect is something that with a short amount of time you learn to do for yourself, no longer needing the recognition of others. Confidence is generally described as a state of being. The first task to do, is slow down do not rush into things. Everything will come into place if you do not force it. When you hurry, things compact together and appear larger than they really are. Your mind goes into a panic mode and your body becomes tense and clumsy. Again, if you look at any of the seduction masters, they all follow the three C’s. ************COOL CALM and in CONTROL*********
Wherever they are, they appear to own their space and control the spaces around them. They do not set time limits or try to make themselves fit into others schedules. If you have ever fired a rifle, you can relate to what I am saying. When hunting most of your time is spend watching and listening, then when you eye your chosen target you relax take aim then when everything falls into place you fire. Giving it your best try and if by some chance the target eludes you. You remember everything you did right and try again improving on your last attempt. Well life is very similar if you rush in your more likely to stumble. One idea I heard and thought was fantastic was to put a handful of coins in each pocket and walk. If you hear, the coins jingle you are walking to fast and in time, you learn to slow everything down. Amazingly, you begin to do things faster with more accuracy, the mistakes you made before disappear, and your confidence level rises. This is because you no longer have to exert as much energy to reach your goal. It appears easier so you are no longer afraid to try.
At times, I find it very educational to sit back and watch others, seeing how people react to different situations. I even completed a study of wild horses, documenting how they react in the wild. From these studies, I learnt a lot about human behaviors. How people, women in particular relate to others entering the space (environment). If another being raced in acting loud and threatening they automatically went into defense referred to as the flight mode. They become restless, scared ready to run at a moment’s notice, if the danger continues to move closer. Where as if the being strolled in showing little interest but still keeping open to interaction (showing interest without being forceful). Then the initial feelings change to one of curiosity, to where instead of fleeing they welcomed interaction. This same scenario happens everywhere, people are always in too much of a hurry to get things done, and they miss the enjoyment of interaction and are unable to make a connection. This all happens within a minutes of the initial meeting, yet is one of the most important parts of the game. Once you can constantly make that initial connection you relax and your confidence and social value skyrockets.
The next step is the conversation, the biggest mistake made here is people become robotic shooting off a series of simple questions one after the next:
Do you come here often?
Can I buy you a drink?
What do you do for fun?
Do you have a boy friend?
Sometimes it appears like they are speed dating.
These things have been said a million times before and they will probably hear at least once a day. This is where you have to be inventive and show honest interest in what they are saying, keep the connection going. You must learn to flirt, behave carelessly or indifferently. The art of flirting is not as difficult to master as some make it seem.
Here are a few starters to get you going if not put you on top:
1) Have fun with it, be relaxed. Do not put pressure on yourself to go up to someone at a party, bar or anywhere else with the assumption that you are going to make them fall madly and passionately in love with you.
2) To get yourself in the right state of mind, think happy playful thoughts. Flirting is a playful child like game, have fun, and be cheeky, naughty, and cocky.
3) Make eye contact but do not stare, as it will freak her out, infrequent two second looks is sufficient. Do not wink at someone you have not connected with as it could scare them and will give away your game.
4) Don’t forget to smile, smiling makes your eyes twinkle helping you appear more attractive and helps relax those around you.[BR] Practice smiling in the mirror ,think of something funny . A true smile lights up your whole face and curls both the sides of your mouth upwards, people can quickly tell if you are faking.
5) Don’t use age-old pickup lines they have been overused and worn out e.g. your dad must have been an astronaut because he took the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes. Girls hear these lines every day, if you have to use a pickup line, invent some of your own, and be original.
6) Be confident, this means to have a relaxed stance and remember your as good as anyone else in the room. You need to be seen as the person that others are drawn to, and want to party with and have a good time.
7) Developed a connection, this should occur within the first couple of minutes. Try to find a common interest that you both enjoy.
8) Don’t make sexual comments to someone you just met, people will think your crude and it will give your game away.
9) After your initial connection remember your keno (light brushing touches on the hand, arm, shoulder, and small of the back) and lower your voice to draw them closer into your zone. Lean slightly towards them as you talk, then back slightly away to encourage them to subconsciously, enter your zone. If you are sitting opposite them at a table, lightly brush their leg with your foot then as if you did this completely by accident laugh and apologies. Then shuffle your chair around closer to the explaining that you do not want to accidently kick them.
10) Don’t take yourself too seriously, if you are being cheeky to them you must allow them to be able to play along. It shows strong character if you are able to laugh at yourself.
11) Pay honest attention and interest to what they are saying, do not start a set with them, and then make it obvious that you are looking around the room for your next target
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