PLAYING THE GAME / SETTING UP YOUR PAD part1

HOW TO GET YOUR PAD TO PLAYER STANDARD - part one

Ok we have you looking cool, mysterious, interesting, and sexual, raising your social standing to its highest but all this will be worthless if your pad is not up to standard.  All the work you have done will be washed down the plughole.  To keep that first impression running smoothly a woman needs to be excited to see your home.  You have let her get to know you and now you are ready for the next level.  She arrives at your door full of expectations, so here are some tips to help you out.

1) Keep things tidy, if your budget does not allow for a housekeeper make sure you allow time in your busy social life to keep things clean.

Make sure the entrance to your home is clean and obstacle free, do not be a hoarder, if its old or worn out get rid of it.  Clutter is a big turn off.  Keep things organized it makes it so much easier to keep clean.

The bathroom is one of the most important, please do not let her walk in to find no toilet paper and the bathroom trashed, a clean bathroom is very important and easily to maintain and is a very easy way to raise your social level.  Scented candles help remove any bad bathroom smells, I like vanilla.  Make sure it is clutter free and has clean towels neatly organized .Bath and shower needs to be kept clean, toilet clean and sanitized.  You do not have to be a clean freak but a little organization goes a long way.  In addition, have a spare travel bag for visitors

Social room should be kept organized and clean, vacuum and dust on a regular basis it makes it a lot easier for upkeep.

The kitchen, again keep clean and organized.  Wash up after every meal, clean up spills when they happen.  Clean out and restock on a regular basis, do not keep out of date items.  Take out the rubbish regularly and clean bin, the smells from old rubbish can destroy an atmosphere in seconds.

Make sure the bedroom is totally clean and organized.  Make your bed, vacuum, dust regularly basis, and do your washing, old clothes odor is a killer.

2) As well as your regular coffee and tea, have some exotic brands on hand and a decent coffee maker, if she does not drink alcohol she will appreciate this.  Get fresh ground coffee and fresh tea leaves, these can be found at your local deli or health food shop, cause instant coffee and tea bags just don’t cut it.

3) Spend some money on a decent entertainment system, television, and unit.  Also have a collection of popular cds and about ten videos, you are looking to create a romantic and fun atmosphere, so be creative with your choices.

4) Learn to cook a special dish, you do not have to become a gourmet or chef, but it is important and impressive if you can show talent in the kitchen.  After discovering, your signature masterpiece consults your local wine shop for a perfect match.  My suggestion is a light pasta dish that can be prepare on short notice, practice perfecting your presentation.  Always try to use fresh ingredients and have them on hand.  Compliment with a fresh salad and French bread loaf.

5) Use lamps for lighting, florescent and overhead lighting can quickly kill the mood.  There are many interesting styles out there, which can fit your theme.  If you have a lava lamp and /or color wheel throw them out along with those hippy tea-shirts or at least hide them somewhere safe.

6) Hide the video games nothing says lazy big kid like an x-box or WI sitting in the middle of the room in front of the television. 

7) Always have a couple of bottles of wine, one red and one white , brandy and a couple of bottles of decent champagne.  Also own some wine glasses, brandy glasses, and champagne flutes of good quality; at least four of each is a good idea because they break easily. 

8) A semi-stocked fringe, make sure there is more than a bottle of ketchup and a case of bud.  Have some snack foods that look and taste good that are quick to prepare, a selection of cheeses, fresh exotic fruits, deli meats, chocolate and vanilla ice cream with some toppings.  Make sure you have fresh milk and cream, and have some assorted crackers, sugar and splendid in the pantry or kitchen cupboard.

9) Decent dinner set, napkins, coffee and tea cups and cooking collection- pots , pans and utensils , constantly make sure they are in good condition if not replace them.

10) Have a spare set of shorts and tea-shirt in case they decide to stay the night, makes sure the shorts have a drawstring so they can fit all sizes.  It is inconspicuous and thoughtful this can be done without making your place looking fussy or girly.  This is your pad, so let it be obvious an eligible man lives within but without being tasteless.  The place is an extension of you and reflects whom you are and where you are going.

PLAYING THE GAME- MALE GROOMING

MALE GROOMING

Male grooming these days is just important as the female beauty routine.  Men have begun to take a lot of pride in their appearance and want to look great when going out in public. From manicured nails to male facial products, the modern man has a host of beauty products to choose from to help him achieve the perfect look.  Taking that little bit of pride in your appearance not only helps you to look better, it gives your ego a little boost which gives you more confidence in yourself making it easier for you to approach your chosen target.

You do not have to spend a fortune to look your best as there a many ways to improve your appearance without breaking the bank and some ways that will not cost a single cent.  There are many new products on the market these days aimed at male grooming and personal appearance.  It is a thriving marketplace, so the un-initiated must take care in their choices.  It is important to be yourself, a mistake people often make is they look at someone in a celebrity magazine and they copy them and try to be just like them.  What you need to realize is that you are a unique individual person and that there is no one in the whole world just like you.

Most men think it is wimpy to wear make-up and certainly not the manly thing to do.  Well as long as one does not go overboard, men can look good with a little make-up on.  The main tip is to use some dark eyeliner this can really emphasize your eyes and features and give you a cool look.  If you have dark patches under your eyes, then simply use a little concealer to hide the fact.  Be sure to use a concealer brush to enable you to get maximum coverage from a minimum amount of concealer.  If a facemask sounds like a frightening idea, it need not be.  If you want to give your face some tender loving care then you can do this in the privacy of your own home.  Simply use a warming mineral facemask cream from your local pharmacy or beauty store.

 If you have a well-defined face, then it has been proven that women will find you more attractive than someone with very setback features.  If you want to get looks, therefore, you need to emphasize your features.  Try using a pinky-flesh tone on your cheeks, side of nose, chin, and jawbone to highlight the contours of your face, and really stand out your best features, in a very good way.  Most women think nothing of regularly using a lip balm to keep their lips moist and stop chapping.  Even though it is not really make-up, many people think it is too girlie to do even this.  Trust me; if you want good, attractive lips, then you should use a quality lip balm regularly to keep your lips in kissable condition.

If you are starting to get a little older, and the grey hairs have started to creep in, then you can easily make yourself feel years younger simply by removing them.  In the old days, it might have been taboo for men to buy hair dye or consider dyeing, but these days it is highly accepted.  The best products to use and those that will make you feel comfortable to buy are those packaged for men.  If your hair is feeling dry and brittle use only a good conditioner, leave out the shampooing and for that frizzy hair a light hair, gel works wonders.

As you get older, of course, your skin will start to wrinkle.  You too have the right to take care of your skin.  You should ensure that you have a skin care routine that includes cleansing, exfoliating, and then a moisturizer.  Shaving is a great way of keeping your skin healthy, as well as looking good - a clean shave makes you look in good condition and can take years off you, too.  The first step is to wet your face, and with a new razor blade in your razor, apply shaving cream to your face.  Shave with downward strokes - these are easier to control - and use a gentle pressure.  Ensure the razor does not clog.

As a man, you might feel there is something wrong about caring for yourself and your appearance.  That is why this tip is for you is a good one as no one will know what you are doing or why.  They will see what you are doing as something perfectly normal, drinking water.  Yes, drink at least a four glasses of just plain water a day and it will really help your skin to look after itself.  Research has shown that certain foods are worse for your skin than others are.  Whilst they may not actively damage it straight away, over time they could.  Therefore, you should try to have as much as you can of whole grain product foods, coupled with a diet rich in fruit and veg.  No need to eat meat all the time and just to prove you are a man.

No matter how often you clean your teeth they can still become stained from drinking tea, coffee, soda, and smoking and from eating different foods.  There are many different ways to whiten your teeth but the cheapest option is to use whitening toothpaste.  Although this might take a little longer than other methods to work, they will give you a brighter smile in two to three weeks.  Having whiter teeth does not always mean that you have fresh breath, and although regular brushing does help.  Investing in a good mouthwash is essential.  Mouthwash gets to parts of the mouth that brushing cannot reach leaving your breath fresher and your mouth cleaner.

To shave your pubic region or not to shave is a matter of personal taste.  If it feels right then goes ahead and does it but if it does not then definitely do not.  You can manage hair growth on body parts by trimming the hair now and again with scissors taking care not to endanger your chances of having children in the future. Hair on the ear lobes can be embarrassing.  To get rid of this unwanted hair you can wax your ear lobes at regular intervals.  If you like the bare body look, then waxing the chest can also be a good option. 

Body massages on weekends are relaxing.  Massages improve your blood circulation and tone your body while it relaxes your muscles.  Manicure and pedicures clean your hands and feet and keep them in good shape.  Regular exercises and a balanced diet are also necessary for an overall good look.  Make a conscious effort to improve your total look but do not expect changes over night, it will require hard word but the rewards will be endless.

Are you worn-out with the same haircut that you owned in the college?  Would you like to change the way you look with the latest hairstyle trends that suit your professional or casual lifestyle?  Then you need to know the just right hairstyles and haircuts that can make you look more youthful, rugged, intelligent, & sexy.  Transform your hairstyle into an irresistible hunk that every woman desires.  Fashion works in cycles.  My best tip here is to befriend you hairdresser become a regular and tip big.  These people are one of your biggest assets.  Ask around people will talk and it makes a great opener with your target.

Invest in at least two suits, which can be broken into separates: 1) the navy two-button suit and 2) the gray flannel suit.  Next, throw a double-breasted blazer into the mix.  Off-the-rack is fine here, but consider taking this to the next level by adding an unexpected, bold-colored lining to the blazer.  You know the kind that silently says, “I’m still the sharpest-looking guy in the room.”  Finally, throw in some accessories that show that details truly make the man pocket squares, matching colored socks, and cufflinks.  I am assuming you already own basic dress shirts and decent shoes, so look to these power-dressing staples to take your game to the next level.  Regardless of what type of event you are attending, putting some thought in beforehand as to the impression you are hoping to make will go a long way toward helping you dress for the occasion.  Whether you are attending an ultra-formal function or a beach party, there are always ways of altering your ensemble to achieve looks ranging from polished and put together to seriously cool.

Wear your best jeans when you are meeting your friends for a few brews, there are times when you should certainly plan ahead for casual get-togethers.  In these situations, dressing for the occasion involves selecting your attire carefully and avoiding anything too quirky or potentially offensive.  Try a pair of flat-front pants coupled with a tucked-in dress shirt or a polo shirt, and keep your footwear to black or brown.  In addition, do not neglect the grooming department, it is always important to look your best.

Now after adopting a healthy diet and getting plenty of exercise, knowing your body type is one of the most significant factors in making the most of your manifestation.  That is because learning to work with what you have enables you to take advantage of on your strong points and conceal your flaws.  One of the most important principles to follow when dressing any body type is to buy clothes that fit properly.  This rule is particularly important if you are on the larger side.  To show your body in its best light, select clothing that skims over your frame, as it will smooth out your physique.  Your blazers should be a little longer in order to provide more coverage of your posterior.  To further flatter your body and balance out your proportions, choose tops, blazers and outerwear with slightly structured shoulders, as these will give you an authoritative air and will direct attention to your face.

PLAYING THE GAME

What is the game?

The Game is life and everything it has to offer.  It is composed of the decisions we make and the choices we do not make.  Whatever we do or choose not to do creates a change in the plays.  This in turn sets the game in a new direction. There are three types of personalities in the game:

1.      THE WATCHER – Those that stand back and watch life go by. Happy with what they have and where they are.  These people are not wrong; they just no longer or never did have the ambition to push forward to try to beat the next level (to evolve).

2.      THE FILLER – This is that person that wishes he had the courage to achieve his goals but always fall short.  Taking their position on the playing field, but still only watching the game never understanding the basic principles.

3.      THE PLAYER – The one that shines and makes the Game his own.  The player never plays by others rules he is innovating and creative.  Always thinking and looking for ways to improve.  He is the shining light that others are drawn to, not afraid to stand out in a crowd and be noticed.

Is it possible for us to understand what life really is and how it may work?  What is there about playing the game that allows some to succeed through a process of trial and error rather than set rules?  To be able to picture, imagine, or perceive the ground lines of that greater human existence.  What types of play best illustrates such a zenith of both, as a norm and as a goal?  The next pages will dramatically change the way you experience life and your normal thought patterns.  Creating in you, by you and for you the person you wish to be. 

Games are the contests of everyday life; the games we use in business, politics, in the bedroom and on the battlefield need not to have winners and losers, a beginning and an end.  Games of life are more mysterious and eventually more rewarding.  They are unwritten and very unpredictable; they are the source of freedom.  By Playing the Game, you gain insights into the nature of property and power, of culture and community, of sexuality and self-discovery, opening the door to a world of infinite delight and possibility.

One thing about the game is there are no concrete rules or set plays.  The rules at the beginning can be used as a guide but as you involve yourself and become more experienced these guides should be set aside for a more natural flow.  The writings Tao Te Ching (the way, the virtue, the writing) are a great guide to the game:

Knowing others is wisdom,

Knowing the self is enlightenment.

Mastering others requires force,

Mastering the self requires strength,

He who knows he has enough is rich.

Perseverance is a sign of will power.

To die but not to perish is to be eternally present.  (chap. 33, tr. Feng and English).                  This piece shows the wisdom needed to succeed and excel in the game.

 Each move either is for the purpose of a dramatic response, or is such a response, or is both.  However, these bring to mind a memory or feeling and responses that are merely imaginative recreations.  The responses, that is not merely portrayals of such interplay, as is the case of staged performances.  The players are, in a way, writing a script at the same time that they are performing it.  In making each move or choice we create a variation of the play changing its direction.  This is especially, related to the seduction scene, any choice you make creates a new path and with each new path a new adventure.